{"id":625,"date":"2019-06-28T18:19:25","date_gmt":"2019-06-28T16:19:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/?p=625"},"modified":"2021-11-09T16:55:36","modified_gmt":"2021-11-09T15:55:36","slug":"frustrated-expectation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/en\/frustrated-expectation\/","title":{"rendered":"The Frustrated Expectation"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>CASE STUDY OF FRUSTRATED EXPECTATION: The Inheritance<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><i>Simon, single, mid 50s, a cheerful person. Today he seems depressed. During coffee in the old center of town, he talks about what\u2019s upsetting him:<\/i><\/p>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:20px\"><\/div>\n<h2>The Situation<\/h2>\n<p>\u201eI\u2019m shocked. My mother just told me that she won\u2019t sign over the house to me. For ten years I\u2019ve been looking forward to the house that once belonged to my grandparents, the house I was born in. I was hoping, one day, to spend my retirement there \u2013 leave the city apartment and live in the green countryside, maybe even buy an old timer (there\u2019s a garage there). But now my mom has informed me that she\u2019d prefer to leave half the house to my sister, even though they haven\u2019t been in contact for years. Suddenly, that totally doesn\u2019t seem to matter to my mother anymore. Now I can forget my dreams. I can\u2019t afford to buy out my sister for the other half. I\u2019m trying to concentrate on other things, but it\u2019s all I can think about.\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:20px\"><\/div>\n<h2>IDENTIFY THE EMOTIONAL HINDERER<\/h2>\n<div class=\"one_fifth\">\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"388\" height=\"699\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-623\" src=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/frustrierte-erwartungshaltung.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/frustrierte-erwartungshaltung.jpg 388w, https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/frustrierte-erwartungshaltung-167x300.jpg 167w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 388px) 100vw, 388px\" \/><\/p>\n<h5>\u00a9 \u201eFrustrated Expectation\u201c Judith Hornok<\/h5>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"four_fifth\">\n<p>Attention: Here\u2019s where \u201cFrustrated Expectation begins to influence Simon (looking through the spyglasses, awaiting the \u201cpromises\u201d to be fullfield): \u201cWhat am I supposed to do now? Should I even try to convince my mother to leave the house to me? Only two weeks ago she insisted on how important that was to her. And now?\u201d Simon is beginning to get angry and upset. \u201cFrustrated Expectation\u201d is gnawing at Simon: \u201cWhy isn\u2019t she keeping her word? It doesn\u2019t make sense! She\u2019ll never decide in my favor. I feel helpless and have lost all hope.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:20px\"><\/div>\n<h2>Sharpen your awareness \u2013 apply a technique<\/h2>\n<div class=\"four_fifth\">\n<p>Before these thoughts make you crazy, because you constantly have to think of everything that has gone wrong, that has not turned out as you expected, consider these tips from experts to deal with your disappointment; to find peace and to bring your world back into balance.<\/p>\n<h3>Expert tips from brain researcher Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor:<\/h3>\n<p>Brain researcher Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, who had a stroke in her left cerebral cortex in 1996, experienced a new dimension of consciousness. She realized what a fantastic feeling it was to be in the right side of the brain \u2013 how relaxing it felt.<\/p>\n<p>As an explanation: The left brain helps us organize information in the external world and systematically makes judgements of right\/wrong or good\/bad. Our left brain circuitry is our stress circuitry, the tool we use to control and create order in our world.<\/p>\n<p>The right brain processes information about the present moment, so this is a terrific tool to help you purposely shift your consciousness into the present moment \u2013 and prevent persistent negative thoughts.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div class=\"one_fifth\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"593\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/koffer-neuneuneuneu.gif\" alt=\"\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-738\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:20px\"><\/div>\n<p>Dr. Taylor\u2019s Advice: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/en\/use-the-skill-set-of-your-right-side-brain\/\">Use the skill set of your right-side brain<\/a>.<br \/>\n<!--\n\n\n<h2>Dr. Taylor\u2019s Advice: USE THE SKILL SET OF YOUR RIGHT SIDE BRAIN<\/h2>\n\n\n\n\n\n<ul>\n \t\n\n<li>Find a quiet place<\/li>\n\n\n \t\n\n<li>Totally cover your right eye by placing the heel of your right hand over the right eye. Leave the fingers of your right hand stretched out.<\/li>\n\n\n \t\n\n<li>By doing this you cover your whole right eye, and half of the left eye. Your left eye remains open.<\/li>\n\n\n \t\n\n<li>Hold this position.<\/li>\n\n\n \t\n\n<li>Nurturing this sense of the present moment can leave us feeling more peaceful, regardless of the circumstances around us.<\/li>\n\n\n<\/ul>\n\n\n[su_spacer size=\"20\"]\n\nDr. Taylor recommends:\n\nIn the beginning you might want to perform this technique for about two minutes, but as you become more familiar with this action, it usually takes about 30 seconds before you feel the shift inside your head.\n--><\/p>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:60px\"><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>CASE STUDY OF FRUSTRATED EXPECTATION: The Inheritance Simon, single, mid 50s, a cheerful person. Today he seems depressed. During coffee in the old center of town, he talks about what\u2019s upsetting him: The Situation \u201eI\u2019m shocked. My mother just told me that she won\u2019t sign over the house to me. For ten years I\u2019ve been [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":628,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-625","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog-en"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Frustrated Expectation - Judith Hornok<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/en\/frustrated-expectation\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Frustrated Expectation - Judith Hornok\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"CASE STUDY OF FRUSTRATED EXPECTATION: The Inheritance Simon, single, mid 50s, a cheerful person. 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