{"id":1034,"date":"2020-08-28T07:11:02","date_gmt":"2020-08-28T05:11:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/?p=1034"},"modified":"2021-11-09T16:54:26","modified_gmt":"2021-11-09T15:54:26","slug":"the-aggressive-inner-critic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/en\/the-aggressive-inner-critic\/","title":{"rendered":"The Aggressive Inner Critic"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Case study on the Aggressive Inner Critic: After the first date.<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><i>Do you know this situation &#8211; the day after the first date? You feel happy &#8211; you are sure that this first encounter went really well. The next day you send a message, but there is NO answer &#8230;<\/i><\/p>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:20px\"><\/div>\n<h2>The Situation<\/h2>\n<p>What a great first date: it \u201eclicked\u201c \u2013 unbelievable! The next day I send a message: \u201eDid you get home safely? When will we see each other again?\u201c \u2013 NO answer, not even on the following days. Slowly, doubts arise:\u201cAm I not good enough? Did I do something wrong?\u201c<\/p>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:20px\"><\/div>\n<h2>Identify the Emotional Hinderer<\/h2>\n<div class=\"one_fifth\">\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"520\" height=\"932\" src=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/aggressive-inner-critic.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-1031\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/aggressive-inner-critic.jpg 520w, https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/aggressive-inner-critic-167x300.jpg 167w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 520px) 100vw, 520px\" \/><\/p>\n<h5>\u00a9 \u201eThe Aggressive Inner Critic\u201c Judith Hornok<\/h5>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"four_fifth\">\n<p>Attention: If your criticizing thoughts increase: \u201cWhy is there no reaction? I screwed it up, I\u00b4m not intresting enough, too fat, too thin, etc.\u201d If the undertone of your thoughts sounds sneering, then The Aggressive Inner Critic (pictured) has already arrived and is starting to use his manipulation techniques to convince you: You are not good enough.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:20px\"><\/div>\n<h2>Sharpen your awareness \u2013 apply a technique<\/h2>\n<div class=\"four_fifth\">\n<p>Before giving in to your self-doubts, which can even take self-destructive forms, even though you don&#8217;t know the real reasons for the other&#8217;s behavior, let&#8217;s consider together how to turn the nagging of &#8220;The Aggressive Inner Critic&#8221; into a healthy form of productive criticism. Thus creating satisfaction for yourself and credibility towards others.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"one_fifth\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"593\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/koffer-neuneuneuneu.gif\" alt=\"\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-738\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:20px\"><\/div>\n<h2>THE BEST WAY TO MANAGE THE AGGRESSIVE INNER CRITIC IS: SELF CONFIDENCE<\/h2>\n<p>Approach: knowing how \u201eto calm\u201c inside yourself, that\u2018s the first important step.<\/p>\n<p>I  remember horses &#8211; how challenging they are when dealing with people &#8211; how ruthlessly they throw people who cannot ride out of the saddle. How they enjoy teasing self-doubting people, going up to them to challenge them. With an Aggressive Inner Critic inside yourself you do not have a chance to riding or train with horses.<\/p>\n<p>Horse whisperer David Catchpole confirms this. The native Brit knows what he is talking about. He specializes in difficult horses. Everything that \u201cdoesn&#8217;t want to listenr\u201d is delivered to him &#8211; from the young, wild stallion to the experienced show jumping horse. David says: \u201cYou have to appear self-confident and calm when dealing with a horse. That is the top priority, because a horse must be able to trust the rider to make the right decisions in an emergency. Only then can a horse relax and accept a subordinate role in the herd and \u201clisten.\u201d Accordingly, a rider has to be a self-confident, and above all have a relaxed personality towards the horse. The correct posture of the body is particularly important.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>This statement inspired me, because horses are also used in leadership training \u2013 to manage employees even better.<\/p>\n<p>What technique does Horse Whisperer David recommend should people learn to build self-confidence in order to transform The Aggressive Inner Critic into a better version?<\/p>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:20px\"><\/div>\n<p>Technique: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/en\/self-confidence-walk-with-grace-and-power\/\">Walk with Grace and Power<\/a>.<br \/>\n<!--\n\n\n<h2>Walk with Grace and Power<\/h2>\n\n\n\nYou can start any day, any time - right now\n\n\n<ul>\n\t\n\n<li> Stand up tall with both legs straight.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li> Push both shoulders down and pull back.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li> Make sure you are in an upright posture - straighten your head up (you can also imagine how your head is pulled slightly upwards on a thread, like a puppet, in the middle of the head; extend just a few millimeters).<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li>Look straight ahead (make good eye contact to everyone who comes towards you).<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li> Start to walk - walk quickly, don't stroll around.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li> Place one foot after the other, powerful on the ground - you have the feeling of being \u201cstanding on the ground.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li> When walking, take both hands with you - right and left.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li> As you walk, tell yourself these sentences:\n- All is well.\n- I am good.\n- It will work.<\/li>\n\n\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n[su_spacer size=\"40\"]\n\nTry it and do not step aside\n\nIf someone approaches you, spread your hands to the right and left to keep the distance.\n\n<strong>David recommends<\/strong>: Do this exercise anywhere you go - not just on the way to the stable, but also while walking or exercising. Even if you go to a meeting or a presentation, especially if you are afraid of failing because you are not a good speaker. And of course on the way to the first date.\n--><\/p>\n<div class=\"su-spacer\" style=\"height:60px\"><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Case study on the Aggressive Inner Critic: After the first date. Do you know this situation &#8211; the day after the first date? You feel happy &#8211; you are sure that this first encounter went really well. The next day you send a message, but there is NO answer &#8230; The Situation What a great [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":1027,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1034","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog-en"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Aggressive Inner Critic - Judith Hornok<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.judithhornok.com\/en\/the-aggressive-inner-critic\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Aggressive Inner Critic - Judith Hornok\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Case study on the Aggressive Inner Critic: After the first date. 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