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    Week 3

    “60 Second Grinning” Technique – At Least Once a Day

    Many know this technique: You lift the corners of your mouth, to the right and the left, and hold this position 60 seconds.

    The result (even neurologists are convinced of this): After 60 seconds, there is a “click” moment – you are immediately put into a positive mood. Feel happy and relaxed.

    This made me curious. Because these are exactly the right exercises to stimulate the Paralyzing Fear character, to get it moving. That’s the goal of this training program.

    And that´s the reason why I used this technique as a training step for week 3.

    My personal experiences are noted here in my training diary.

    • The trainings unit are to be done daily and can be immediately applied whenever you feel “physical paralysis.”
    • To this training program you can also add exercises from week 1 and 2.

    © „The Paralyzing Fear“ Judith Hornok

    © „The Paralyzing Fear“ Judith Hornok

    MY Training DIARY: Week 3

    Monday: I’m already a little nervous – I have an important phone call in 20 minutes. The thought of it doesn’t feel good. I’m not looking forward to it. The last conversation was very unpleasant. I had the feeling the person at the other end of the line was not listening to me: that we were talking past each other. I do not feel like talking on the phone, but I have to do it! I have to stay professional! I feel my lungs cramp. I breathe in and out. The physical sign of paralysis is still there. Now the time has come, now I need to do the exercise: I lift the corners of my mouth, to the right and left, energetically. I hold this position; I begin to count: 1 – 2 – 3- … At 13, a thought passes through my head: “This is ridiculous. Why are you bothering yourself with this now? It would be much better to concentrate on the talk itself. The call is in ten minutes!” – the Aggressive Inner Critic character has apparently arrived; another one of The Emotional Hinderers, who likes to manipulate. But I ignore this thought, keep concentrating on my exercise. Hold the position – while breathing calmly and steadily through my nose, in and out, in and out… I continue counting … 28 – 29 – at 30. “This is ridiculous! …” there it is again, the criticizing thought. “Stay strong!” I order myself to be self-disciplined – “Just keep on holding that position and keep counting!” I lift corners of my mouth more; while visualizing the aggressive, nagging voice as a “person” – the Aggressive Inner Critic character now has a face, hair, clothes, takes on a shape. This makes me smile inside; makes it easier for me to hold the tension at the corners of my mouth. Keep counting… 58 – 59 – 60 – Done! I let my facial muscles relax. A few second later, the corners of my mouth lift on their own; it’s a yo-yo effect.

    What do I sense in my body – there’s no physical pressure anymore. My nervous thoughts have disappeared as well. I feel happy and generous. I pick up the phone and dial. The call goes well.

    Tuesday: I’m waiting in front of the bakery. The line is long. I’m late. I’m getting impatient, feel a slight pressure in my throat, “I hope I’ll make it…” Inside, a customer is chatting with the saleswoman, both are laughing. “What´s that?”. My body seems to be heating up – looks like the Incensed Anger Rascal has just arrived, joining the Paralyzing Fear. I get angry: “Hurry up! Everyone is waiting! And there the two of them are chatting away? Pure egoists!” I take a deep breath, the feeling of pressure in my body increases; as does my anger. Now I want to try something: To see if the fitness program for the Paralyzing Fear character works on the Incensed Anger Rascal as well, will I get this creature to relax? I abruptly lift both corners of my mouth and hold that position for 60 seconds – intensely. Then I let go. My facial muscles relax and again there’s a yo-yo effect – my lips automatically lift up. How do I feel now? The anger is gone; no matter how hard I try, I can’t be mad anymore. It´s exact the opposite: I have a natural smile on my face as I enter the shop – smiling to myself from the inside out. This fitness program seems to work as a relaxation program for the Incensed Anger Rascal character as well.

    Wednesday: On the walk home after having done some shopping, my head is spinning with thoughts. I remember an uncomfortable situation. I start to feel a restriction in my throat – how can I go on? I search for answers, but can’t find any. Now it’s time for the exercise again: I breathe deeply in and out, lift the corners of my mouth. I hold that position. A couple passes by. The man looks at me – and then, in a second, drops his eyes to the ground. My huge grin seems to irritate him. The woman next to him looks surprised at first. But then she smiles; it seems to be an involuntary reaction to my facial expression. I keep the grin in place. Now I need to be disciplined – just a few more seconds to go … 58, 59, 60 – Done! I let go. An instant later the yo-yo effect sets in – the corners of my mouth automatically lift up. Now, I am smiling on my own – the situation with the couple just now was so bizarre.

    I feel very good, don’t sense any kind of pressure in my body.

    Let´s look at the thoughts I had before: Now I see everything in a much more relaxed way. What can be done? The first ideas and solutions come to mind.

    Thursday: It’s early in the morning – I don’t feel particularly good or bad. I’m on my way, getting some coffee. No one passes me on the street. But still I want to try something out: To what extent can I motivate myself with the grin-technique, already early in the morning? Am I able to improve my mood? Is this possible? I lift both corners of my mouth firmly upwards and, as always, hold the position. Today, it’s easy for me, I’ve had enough practice. And even when the thought “Is this really necessary? Why are you doing this,” passes through my mind – now it’s just a flash, over in a second. Because I have a strong counterargument: “Yes! It’s important! It feels right!” The 60 seconds are over – as always, I relax my facial muscles and, again, this is followed by the yo-yo effect. How do I feel now: Good!

    Friday: I am on my walk. Two women come towards me on the promenade. They are walking in the middle of the street, taking up the whole space. If I don’t dodge them by moving aside, they will run straight into me. But that doesn’t seem to bother the women; they continue heading straight towards me, don’t swerve. Now I need to act quickly – either I will go around them or we will crash into each other. I feel the heat inside me: “Incredible, how selfish they are! Pushing me off the sidewalk like that! Who do they think they are?” I decide to go on the defensive, make a sharp turn, move into the road to avoid them. At the same time, I apply my grin-technique: I lift the corners of my mouth – tightly hold the tension. With this extreme grin on my face, I pass the two women. Both give me an anxious look. I look directly at them, into their faces – with my huge grin. That unsettles them even more. Now I need to be disciplined again – keep the tension in my face and breathe calmly through my nose, in and out. While I continue counting …58, 59, 60. Done! I let go. The muscles relax and the yo-yo effect sets in again. How am I doing now, how do I feel? There isn´t a feeling of “anger” towards the two women anymore. It´s just the opposite, I find the whole situation amusing and am totally relaxed.

    Saturday: I’m in an impossible situation – a bottle has broken in my paper shopping bag. The liquid is spilling out, soaking into the bottom of the paper bag; suddenly it rips. Everything drops out. “Oh my God!! What am I going to do now? How am I going to carry everything home? I start to panic – my throat closes up. Then, I remember this week’s exercise: the grin-technique. Today I don’t have any difficulty, I know the exercise very well by now. Also the criticizing inner voice doesn´t bother me: “What are you doing? What’s this supposed to mean? Why don’t you worry about getting a new bag first!” – I promptly ignore the Inner Critic. Just concentrate on the exercise and breath calmly through my nose, in and out, in and out, while counting … 58, 59, 60. Done! My face relaxes, and as before, there’s a yo-yo effect. My nervousness is gone. Now it’s easier for me to think in practical terms. And I begin to wonder: What can I do now? Maybe some of it will fit in my coat pockets? And the rest of it I can carry in my hands! A happy ending: I brought it all home.

    Sunday: I am sitting on a bench. A man walks by – we start talking. It turns into a discussion. In the middle of a very emotional part of the conversation, the man gets a call. He apologizes and answers his phone. While he’s speaking, he moves further and further away from me, and goes to get his bike. It seems that he is going to leave soon. I’m surprised and disappointed: “How can he do that, I was in the middle of a sentence! Our conversation wasn’t over yet. I really wasn’t expecting that! That´s so rude!” Here´s where the Frustrated Expectation character, another of The Emotional Hinderers, arrives first on the scene, I feel pressure in my chest: “Maybe I said something wrong?” (the Paralyzing Fear character). “This is no way to treat me! That´s just impossible…I, I, I…(the Bloated Ego character). I feel angry, resentful. It´s time, let´s do this week’s exercise: I lift the corners of my mouth up, hold that position – for 60 seconds.
    How do I feel now, what’s going on inside me? I don’t feel any physical pressure, not even a bit of negativity towards that man. “Whatever,” I think, “He probably had his reasons.” I turn my attention to my book again. After a few minutes, I hear a voice: “Good-bye! It was a pleasure to meet you! See you soon!” I look up – I see the man standing there, he says good-bye and sends me a friendly wave. Then he gets on his bike and leaves. Now I am smiling – from the inside out.

    Today, I’ve already exercised and calmed three of The Emotional Hinderers with the “Grin Fitness Program”: the Paralyzing Fear character, the Frustrated Expectation character, the Bloated Ego character – wait a second, the Incensed Anger Rascal character also stopped by for a second. So, in total, it was four; I keep smiling, and feel relaxed.

    Results for Week 3

    At the beginning of the week, lifting the corners of my mouth was very difficult for me. I was constantly questioning the purpose of this exercise.

    But, through daily and consistent practice it became easier by the day.

    And the results were always the same: I could immediately identify aggressive, negative feelings and emotions and The Emotional Hinderers such as the Incensed Anger Rascal, the Aggressive Inner Critic, the Bloated Ego, the Frustrated Expectation and of course the Paralyzing Fear. And I was able to manage The Emotional Hinderers better.

    Because one thing is certain: This exercise put me into a very good mood – very quickly.

    I will continue testing this exercise and will publish more experiences and results in six months’ time. Here on this blog.

    Fitness program for getting The Paralyzing Fear to move – Week 1

    Fitness program for getting The Paralyzing Fear to move – Week 2

  2. Fitness program for getting The Paralyzing Fear to move

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    Week 2

    NEWS CONSUMPTION SELF DISCIPLINE – Only watch as much news as you can bear.

    I like to watch the news, it’s exciting, entertaining, informative and stimulates conversations and discussions among people. What would we do without the news, it would get boring, wouldn’t it?

    The challenge is to do a self-assessment. How much news can I take? Or to what extent does it paralyze me in my thinking and my reactions. Does it trigger the Paralyzing Fear character?

    This is exactly the exercise for week 2: To notice when you personally begin to feel physically uncomfortable consuming the news. At what point does the Paralyzing Fear leave us breathless, making us “freeze inside” from the physical pressure. That’s the exact moment we need to react – by switching to another medium, or by switching off completely, thereby getting the Paralyzing Fear character to exercise, “to move.” And only getting back to consuming news when we intuitively sense: Yes! Now I am READY for it!

    • The training sessions are on a daily basis..
    • You can combine these exercises with the exercises of Week 1.

    © „The Paralyzing Fear“ Judith Hornok

    © „The Paralyzing Fear“ Judith Hornok

    MY Training DIARY: Week 2

    Monday: After an hour of walking, I’m motivated. Now it’s time to watch the news. I turn on the TV, excited to see what’s going on in the world! The first report shows a series of deaths, terrifying images. “The number are shocking,” I hear on TV. “Terrifying – we’ll see how it develops …” I feel my chest tighten again. My breath grows heavy.
    “Come on,” I tell myself, “Don’t be so over sensitive. It’s not that bad. This is well-researched data, facts. That’s life. That´s the world of today. And you need to stay informed – so, come on, if others can do it, so can you. And it doesn´t feel that bad, right? The pressure is not really that great – you can take a little bit more, can’t you?”
    I take deep breaths – in and out. Watch the rest of the news. I sleep badly that night.
    I ask myself: Have I recognized the signs of the Paralyzing Fear character? Have I not taken them seriously? I have a plan: The next day I’ll be more disciplined in doing this exercise.

    Tuesday: After an hour-long walk, I feel in good shape, and ready to watch the news again. This time I log on to a news portal on the internet. The first report: “Deaths continue to rise …” Along with photos of the victims. I feel a lump in my throat, my breathing gets heavy. Now, it’s clear to me: The Paralyzing Fear character has arrived, is active.
    The time has come, switch off when you feel uncomfortable physically. When the Paralyzing Fear character freezes up your body – that’s the exercise for this week’s fitness program. Now I need to be consistent – to follow through. I switch from the news portal to my emails, start reading through them.
    Right away, I get a bad feeling, somehow I feel guilty: “Come on, watch some more news, it’s not that bad, read the rest of it. Don’t be so childish, you’re a grownup. You want to stay informed! Right? And I’m sure there is something even more exciting and action-packed.” I take a deep breath – I switch back to the news blog and read the rest of the headlines: unemployment, terror, shocking news. At the end, there’s an entertaining story about a celebrity. I laugh in relief, relax – see, there you go. I click off the news portal, try to sense what’s going on inside me. Somehow, I feel depressed, hopeless. The good mood after my walk is gone. I spend a restless night.

    Wednesday: After the walk today, I decide – today I’ll have a news-free day. I haven’t slept well in the last few days. Tomorrow I’ll go back to reading and watching the news. I sleep calmly, get a good night’s rest.

    Thursday: Today was a good day. Professionally, I got a lot done. I feel motivated and strong emotionally. So, I decide it’s a good day to watch the news again – I’m ready. Let’s see how my body feels this time, if I get that anxiety again while watching the news. This time I turn on the TV – I am already looking forward to it! The first report is on the success of a company. I enjoy it very much – it feels really good! The next report is about an earthquake, killing many people – documenting “frightful images and numbers, and that’s only the calm before the storm.” However, I notice that I’m in a very good mental state today. This report touches me just a little bit, I’m still able to watch it with a certain distance. The next news is an entertainment report, followed by an interview. The program ends with, “Even the weather doesn’t put us in a good mood. But I still wish you a nice evening.”
    I turn off the TV and breathe deeply in and out: How do I feel right now – no feelings of pressure. My breathing is calm and regular. This night too, I manage to sleep well. The balance in my mental state and the arrangement of the reports (grueling, exhausting, dramatic, positive, entertaining) have apparently contributed to my balanced sleep.

    Friday: After walking, I turn on the TV, it’s time for the news – let’s see how I’m doing today with my fitness program for the Paralyzing Fear character. The top of the news is: “We are still far from our goal …” followed by a listing of facts and figures. “The situation is hopeless …” another voice says. I feel inside myself – what’s going on? How am I doing currently, in this particular moment? “All good,” I calm myself down, “I don’t feel any kind of pressure. I don’t need to switch the TV off – all is well. “I want to continue watching! The report is well done. I’m excited, can’t let go, have to see more. I inhale and exhale deeply.
    The next news item is, “Another hotspot …” a person in the background reports, “… that’s impossible to stop!” The voice sounds a warning, there is a negative undertone. I feel my chest tighten. I’m having trouble breathing, feel the lump in my throat. “The time has come!” I say out loud. The Paralyzing Fear character has now definitely arrived and is starting to paralyze me physically, to manipulate me. And now it’s up to me to really get this creature “moving.” I resolutely turn off the TV. I’m amazed that I don’t mind at all. I also don’t feel guilty about missing something. I feel very good, somehow relieved. And proud of being so strict with myself. This night, I sleep very well.

    Saturday: After the walk, I decide I won’t watch the news today. I sleep like a baby.

    Sunday: Curiosity has a hold on me today – after the walk I decide I want to watch the news again. But this time too, I’m also aware: I need to react immediately to an unpleasant physical feeling (when the Paralyzing Fear character has a noticeably paralyzing effect on me). Then I need to switch off or change channels immediately. That is the exercise. I log-on to the news portal. The first reported news is: “Positive numbers for…” Well, that sounds pretty good. I quickly scroll over the rest of the headlines for reports on this, read only the headlines – it is a mixture of warnings and positive takes on the situation. With each remark that is made, I check to see what is going on inside of me. If I sense physical pressure – I immediately scroll to the next item. And I go through them, till I reach the end of the list. Today, it’s going very, very well. At night I sleep well.

    Results for Week 2

    At the beginning of the week, it was difficult for me to consistently switch off or turn away, when the Paralyzing Fear character made me “freeze,” put physical pressure on me. This is where the Paralyzing Fear still had the upper hand. Along with the Aggressive Inner Critic, who likes to stick close to the Paralyzing Fear, and manipulate it with words of warning: “Well, aren’t you being overly sensitive. My god, such a sensitive soul. How do you think this is going to turn out? You do not want to watch the news! That’s impossible! It’s ridiculous, absurd!” But through my consistent training in mindfulness (every day) I was able to manage two of The Emotional Hinderers, get them exercising, “moving” – and, in that way, get them to relax.

    I took responsibility for myself – disciplined my daily dose of news consumption. And I was flexible – day by day, minute by minute. I decided: Today I can take watching the news or I can’t. On some days all I did was search for news channels that only presented information (facts and figures) without images or interpretations.

    Behaving in this way, I had daily control of my mental state. I felt myself grow physically and mentally fitter by the day. My creativity and joy of life increased.

    Fitness program for getting The Paralyzing Fear to move – Week 1

    Fitness program for getting The Paralyzing Fear to move – Week 3

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    How can I ensure the Paralyzing Fear character does not take over, so this creature can’t impact my thinking and my actions – by manipulating with words such as, “Everything could be wrong! Do nothing – just stand still – DO NOT MOVE! That’s what I asked myself.

    I have a solution for this: I have created a training plan for this character – step by step.

    THE FITNESS PROGRAM FOR getting the Paralyzing Fear to move.

    FITNESS PLAN in 3 steps

    Get the Paralyzing Fear character exercising

    WHAT’S THE GOAL?

    This is why I developed a 3-week-fitness-program to get my personal Paralyzing Fear in motion, which I’m using myself and recording in my training diary.

    Every week I will explain one program point. And I will present my personal experiences with it.

    If you want to train with me, I would be pleased. Perhaps there are parallels to your own experience with your Paralyzing Fear, and I can also bring you success with my program.

    Tell me about it, I’m looking forward to receiving your feedback.

    © „The Paralyzing Fear“ Judith Hornok

    © „The Paralyzing Fear“ Judith Hornok

    MY TRAINING DIARY: Week 1

    WARM-UP – every second day, 1 hour ‘walking’

    Monday: I find it difficult to start walking. The situation during the day was very stressful for me. Most of all mentally. I have a feeling of pressure in my throat, I breathe a little harder. The Paralyzing Fear seems to be taking hold.
    Keep going. I quickly put on my sports shoes – and off I go. Don’t even think about it! I say aloud to myself, “Don’t question anything. Just go – step by step!” And always breathe deeply into your stomach and exhale again; I am doing this consistently.
    The first 10 minutes are difficult for me because there is still a slight feeling of pressure in my throat. But then, after 20 minutes, I feel a relief. No more feeling of pressure, my breathing has relaxed, is regular. And after 30 minutes the pressure is completely gone. My mind and thoughts are clear. Nothing feels overwhelming or constricting.

    Wednesday: Today, walking feels much easier for me. Just the thoughts of how well I felt afterwards, on Monday, motivates me right from the start. And the result after 1 hour, like Monday, is a relaxed body and a relaxed mind.

    Friday: Today it’s a bit cold again – not really walking weather. “Come on … You don’t have to do that today. You have been walking all week anyway. That is not necessary. Better stay at home. You could catch a cold! I warn you!!! …” I already know this kind of argument, I tell myself, don’t listen, ignore it and go.
    I dress up warmly and start walking – step by step, with regular breathing in and out. After an hour I have the same feeling as Monday and Wednesday: I feel relaxed, without any feeling of pressure. I also come up with a lot of creative ideas while walking. Just wonderful.

    Sunday: Today I am really looking forward to my walking – I really missed it yesterday and the sense of how well I feel afterwards. This body relaxation and this clarity in the head, with no feeling of fear, but many creative, positive thoughts.

    Result for week 1

    At the beginning of the week, the Paralyzing Fear was still manipulating me – leading to a permanent inner dialog. After 15 minutes of walking, my thoughts “sorted” and I became more and more “free” in my head. This feeling then increased by the minute. My thoughts of hopelessness found new approaches and solutions – as if the mind was slowly “emptying” – step by step. After 60 minutes, I felt completely free in my head, and also knew what the next steps should be. I had a plan.

    Physically I felt exhilarated, somehow light. And any kind of pressure and heavy breathing was gone.

    Fitness program for getting the Paralyzing Fear to move – Week 2

    Fitness program for getting The Paralyzing Fear to move – Week 3